Friendship

Friends are important people in your life that might come and go, and some that stays by your side for all the good and bad times that you are going through, provide you with the physical support and emotional encouragement. They are also the ones who you can count on them no matter what happens.

For me, I have known this girl in my first year of my secondary school education, and she is none other than Siru.

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Ever since last night where we went drinking together, she got drunk, and started blabbering nonsense and answered all the questions that we asked her, In particularly to the question, ” What do you think of Shi Yun?” She started to answer it and it made me realize how important my presence is to her.

Also, we have actually come a long way since secondary school because the initial stage of our friendship wasn’t an easy one. We quarrelled because of different backgrounds and most importantly, the ability to not to understand each other’s feelings, needs and wants and putting ourselves in each other’s shoes.

Of course, during the year where O’level started, a major quarrel broke out and we hadn’t talk to each other for weeks, it was crazy and I could still remember how much I hated her at that period because it was the first time I ever scolded vulgarities, “FUCK YOU!” I have never been so angry and angst at someone before and even if I would I wouldn’t scold vulgarities because it was crude and uncultured.

Eventually, we managed to patched up and after all that, we learnt to better understand each other more, especially in respecting each other’s choice and decisions, and not hurting each other because of our selfishness.

As we grew up together, we have changed a lot, from the little girls to now, teens and soon-to-be adults, we have learnt to understand each other so well, our characters and thinking that so much so that we do not even have to ask each other and we could understand what the other is trying to say and think. The way we communicate with one another might sound really absurd and ridiculous to the third party because there is no way that you could understand what we are talking but to us, we are able to.

This is just the most amazing thing ever!

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I know it wasn’t an easy road to come so far with being friends for 7 years (and counting!), we have travelled twice together to Bali and Taiwan, spend great memories together in the ups and downs of our life, be it education, love or family, we have provided support for one another, I couldn’t say that my life has become worst because of you, but I can’t deny the fact that my life has also improved because of you. Without such a good friend like you, who is able to accept every flaws and annoying side of me, I wouldn’t be able to be that crazy, that drama, that hilarious and most importantly, being able to be myself for who I truly am.

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For that, cheer to the 7 years of friendship that we have accumulated so far and best friends forever!

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A Story of A Bullied Victim in School…

Have you suffer from peer pressure in your high school or secondary school day?

Have you been a victim in being bully and jeered?

Have you been a class outcast?

Well, let me tell you a story, there’s this innocent-looking girl who was shy and introvert and a sms reply to this guy changed the fate of her entire 4 years in secondary school. 

So, it all started out when she replied this guy who said that he fancied her and wanted to go out with her and being such an innocent girl, she said yes because she told it was just a joke and that she was not really going to go out with him.

However, things got nasty the next day she went to school, the moment she stepped into the class, the whole class started pointing fingers at her, laughing, joking and jeering at her. She was not even sure what was happening until one of her best friends stepped out to tell her the story. 

Finally, she realized that the guy was just playing a prank on her and she was too foolish and silly to have replied him with a “yes”. Of course, deep down, she wanted to voiced out that she was joking too but she eventually figured out that there was no way anyone would listen to her except for her besties.

And this prank, lasted on till the next stage of secondary school where streaming took place and she was separated from her best friends and placed in a class where majority were guys.

Things started to get worst when her eczema started a terrible outbreak and that a non-intentional blog-post lead to a storm of misunderstanding which resulted in the entire class ganging up against her. 40 versus 1 student. Who’s gonna win?

You know the answers.

And for that the two years, she hated school so much and that the only thing that she looked forward too was CCA, recess and lunch time where it was the only time she was able to meet up with her best friends.

Nonetheless, for every terrible teasing and jeering she got, it would resulted in an emotional breakdown and leading her running and hiding inside the toilet crying and tearing. At that moment, school was shit to her and that home was the best place to hide from all those humiliation.

Things also got even out-of-hand when she decided to study really hard so that in terms of intellectual wise, she was able to stand out from them, and turns out, they started teasing her for being the “teacher’s pet and bootlicker”. She was also given nicknames like ” bookworm, nerds, geek, silent movie, bitch…” etc. It just gets nasty each time…

And for everytime she chanced upon the guys in her class, they would start teasing about her legs because of the eczema scars that were on her, it made them look really ugly. Worst of all, she suffered from some family problems where she couldn’t afford to get braces and well, she was named “bucktooth”. Some of the mean guys even commented, ” This girl is so ugly and that I would rather than the fatest girl in class than to go out with her. I would kill myself if I’m forced to go out with her.”

This left the girl heartbroken and emotionally scarred… From the four years of intimidating school life, she no longer trusted guys anymore and started hating every single guys in school whether be it they are kind, good or bad, she just hated them. 

Also, she had even build up a defence wall emotionally so as to not get near any guys ever again to prevent getting hurt from those nasty comments. 

She no longer trust guys.

Well, by now, I guess you would know who’s this girl.. It’s was me…

And the morale of sharing this story will everyone is not about wanting to gain any sympathy or pity from anyone of you out there.

But, all I want to say that, before you become a bully, think about the consequences. A simple act that you think that it is fun and thrilling to do so, may ruin another person’s life. Be it emotionally or physically, it will leave him/her scarred for the whole life.

And he/she may not be able to step out of the taunt and face life positively like how everyone else is able to.

So, be a kind person to yourself and to others, let’s not jeer or laugh or joke at any person you know whether be it they are a normal person or someone suffering from any illness.

That way, school will be a better place for everyone…

If only…

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In every girl’s dream, we would always dream of having a guy in your life who would be able to cook and whip up a decent meal for you. Likewise, I share this similar dream as many others.

Being someone who loves food, I do enjoy cooking during free time and of course, the process of cooking and eating the food is just a joy. However, the cleaning up doesn’t seems much of a joy.

Of course, I really do wish that someone could actually whip up a meal for me and if he knew how to bake. I’ll love him to bits. I’m serious!

Anyway, I’m just daydreaming like I usually do…it’ll only happen in my dreams because I have no luck…

Centre Parted Hairstyles!

Recently, there has been an increasing number of centre parting hairstyles sighted around, especially in school, many girls have their sweep side bangs to centre parting…

Then, I started to realise that it’s this season’s hairstyle trend to have centre parted hair,let down, tied up and even half clipped!

Now, check out those pretty centre parted hairstyles!

ImageHalf pinned up centre parted hairstyle!

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Kim Kardashian wearing a centre parted hairstyle!

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Amanda Bynes with braided centre parting!

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Katy Perry in centre parting with tinted hair and big bouncy curls!

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Nichole Richie braided centre parting updo!

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Amanda Seyfried in centre parting too!

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I wonder if centre parted hairstyles would look good on all face shapes…

And so,

I decided to try it on myself…

Here’s how I look!

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It kind of look weird and my face seems longer without my swept side bangs…

What do you think?

Who says?

Who said that girls can’t become a beauty?

Who says that there isn’t a possibility that ugly ducklings can’t turn into beautiful swans?

Even, if the humanity claims that personality matters the most, but first impression matters, right?

And usually first impression counts from the way you look, your features, your dressing and the confidence that you possesses…

While this was me in 2009

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I used to like blue roses, so I enjoyed buying a stalk of flower every week, to cheer up myself 🙂

This was taken when I first bought my acer laptop during June and back then, revealing halter inner wears was sort of popular and “fashionable” in a sense…

And this was one of the unglamorous and ugly one, as my hair was over-grown and I did not know the importance of a proper hair-cut…

Now, back to the present

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without makeup

I just bought a black beret and I couldn’t help but to flaunt it a little…

This was taken during Christmas…

My neighbour, Mrs Warren just gave me this awesome black shiny sequin hat and I thought it might look good on me…as a boy-ish look!

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So, you see, girls changes, every year we sort of change a little, learning step-by-step, how to groom, carry ourself and maybe how to put on make-up. The world of cosmetics and make-up to make a difference in a girl’s life.

But, I still survive without make-up as you can see from all my photos… Well, girls, don’t be disappointed by yourself when you heard comments that “you are ugly” or you aren’t the belle in your class or school…

Someday, you’ll grow out of your looks and become pretty…(and if you can’t, I could try to help you and give you some tips, if you wouldn’t mind:) And, I’m really sincere too! If you know my past experience of being a class out-cast…)

Lastly, I hope that those mean girls in school especially in secondary school, like the plastics, will learn their lesson, that looks doesn’t last long, a girl with character will have a successful career and future that those who doesn’t…

ciaociao:D